The second of the nine words in this “Words” Blog Series is…
Let’s just admit this at the very beginning…this word is not an easy one for most of us. Trust is something that we easily struggle with. It takes a long time to build, but can be broken in a moment. And when it is broken, it lengthens the time and difficulty of building it back up again.
The Bible tells us to trust in the Lord. He is God, we are not. He knows more than we do, is stronger than we are, is in control and has a plan (even though we don’t always know what it is or how it’s working), and loves us unconditionally. Because of these truths, and many others as well, we can acknowledge that he is worthy of our trust.
In one way or another, we have all experienced our trust being broken. At some point in our life we placed our trust in another person, and that person let us down and broke our trust. People are imperfect, we know that…but broken trust is still broken trust. It hurts. And when our trust is broken, we begin to close our self off a little bit, not wanting to trust as easily or as much again.
Unfortunately, when we begin to close our self off and trust less, that can begin to affect all of our relationships. Even relationships in which our trust hasn’t been broken. Including our relationship with the Lord.
The hardest thing to do is to allow ourselves to keep trusting after our trust has been broken. But it is so important to do.
Because if we close our self off and trust less in all of our relationships, eventually all of our relationships are damaged and weakened, even the ones that we want to be strong.
So while it is so hard to do, we have to fight to allow our self to trust again, even after our trust has been broken. For our sake. For the sake of all of our important relationships. And ultimately for our relationship with our Lord.
When my trust was broken again and again as my marriage fell apart, I could have chosen to close myself off from trusting again. And I definitely considered it in the months that followed. It would have been easy to do.
I decided that I didn’t want to live that way. I didn’t want to let one relationship that broke my trust affect other relationships. That wouldn’t have been fair to the other relationships that hadn’t broken my trust, because I would have been placing on them the affects of what someone else did.
I also needed my relationship with my Lord to be strong as I walked through the pain of everything, and closing myself off would have only weakened this relationship that I needed so badly.
When we are hurt, when our trust is broken, it is natural to want to close our self off in an attempt to protect ourselves from future hurt. We may be protecting our self from feeling the same pain again, but we are also keeping our self from experiencing the love and acceptance and trust and strength that can come from a good relationship as well. Both in our relationships with other people and in our relationship with the Lord.
There may be times when we do need to allow a specific relationship to be affected. Some relationships will be changed because of continued broken trust. And we may need to let that happen at times.
We just need to make sure that if that does have to happen, we don’t allow that particular relationship to affect all of our other relationships too.
Ultimately, we must trust in the Lord.
That is where it should all start. If we place all of our trust in people, we will be let down. People will fail us and break our trust. Because they aren’t perfect.
But if we place our trust in the Lord and that is our foundation, then we can trust with confidence. Because while people may break our trust, God will not. God is trustworthy. He won’t fail us. So our trust should be in him first.
Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. (Psalm 20:7)
The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him. (Psalm 28:7)
I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” (Psalm 91:2)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord, the Lord himself, is the Rock eternal. (Isaiah 26:4)